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Tired of the Games

We are sick of the games. We want to be honest.

This letter was written as a group effort and everyone contributed. All opinions expressed are how we truly feel.

We believe that honesty is the best policy and we are tired of pretending and trying to tolerate things. We acknowledge that this letter will be tough to swallow. It was just as hard for us to write as this is for you to read; but we feel that we need to be honest.

Chalamar-

We are insulted that we are trying to be your friend and you are blatantly ignoring our attempts; there is no reciprocation of our efforts on your part. Your lack of maturity comes across to us as disrespectful.

To be more specific, here are a few examples of incidents that have led us to feeling that we need to write this letter. One example is when you want to attend events and are invited, then when you are there you do not participate physically or conversationally. Or, you leave an event without acknowledging the host. One instance that sticks out is you playing your DS at the wedding. That was very rude and disrespectful to not only Russ and Jenn, but also to the other guests.

Age doesn’t define maturity, actions do. We find it hard to give you the respect you believe you deserve. It’s easy not to respect someone who doesn’t respect themselves or those around them.

Charlie-

We know you are reading this and probably feel that we are attacking your fiancée and perhaps your judgment. But if you could see things through our eyes you would see something different.

You would see someone who constantly acts like a child and feels that she is ready to raise one. You would also see someone who is constantly making life-changing decisions at a moments notice without thinking of the consequences. Some examples are: The amount of dogs/pets you have gotten and the division of responsibility of care for these animals, the amount and frequency of job changes, and the most recent – the life altering decision of having a baby.

Charlie, you were quick to judge Russ and Jenn. Your judgment on the speed of their relationship is very hypocritical, look in the mirror.

Before you met Chalamar you had your life on a good path. You had good friends that love you, and good health that you worked hard to obtain. It hurts us to see that you’ve lost yourself in this relationship.

You may not believe a word we are saying or value any of our opinions. We may be completely and totally wrong in what we think, but this is how it is from the outside looking in. We all know that there will be consequences for this letter, but we ultimately feel that silence is worse than honesty.

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